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Hello Mark, Biff, a complaint about neighborhood bullying? Thanks. Bill Glassmire

August 29, 2017
Hello Mark, hello Biff,

I trust that this finds you well.

Below is an email from a Ward 7 resident alleging that her neighbor is bullying 
her. Do you have any suggestions about how best to answer?

This is what I propose to say:
(1) The city government does not have any way to respond to subjective 
complaints like this.
Here are a couple of possible city responses which I expect NOT to mention in 
my reply.
(1a) What about the community livability officers in the police department?
(1b) What about the Housing and Neighborhoods Coordinator? 
(2) The only response I can think of is for her to talk with her neighbor. She 
writes that some of her neighbors have also been bullied. I would suggest that 
they consider talking with her neighbor as a group. In either case, individual 
or group, I would consider having an observer (me? a livability officer?) 

What do you think? As I said, I think that the basic point is, city government 
has no way to help?

Thank you. Enjoy the day.

Best wishes,
Bill Glassmire

----- Forwarded Message -----
From: "Heather" <hvephd@xxxxxxxxxxx>
To: ward7@xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx
Sent: Monday, August 28, 2017 9:40:50 PM
Subject: Bullying

Dear Mr. Glassmire:

I am afraid I do not know where else to turn after searching through the City 
of Corvallis website.  I am a resident of Ward 7.  I live on Witham Drive, 
cross street is Lincoln.

I have a neighbor who has been bullying me for 20 years, and I have finally had 
enough.  This individual focuses on single women in the neighborhood, he does 
not seem to direct his attention to intact families (i.e., ones with a male 
head-of-household).  I guess I am not very courageous as I have not "stood up 
to him." His threatening behavior (staring at me as I come and go from my 
house, driving by and watching, standing in the backyard looking through the 
slats of the fence, etc.,) have kept me on edge for years!  He complains to my 
neighbors about me, but never speaks with me directly.  He claims my dogs (over 
the past 20 years) are nuisances and calls the police as an act of power.  I 
check in with my neighbors and they tell me my dogs are not the problem, the 
neighbor is.  I have never complained to anyone about him or the racket he 
makes at all hours of the night.  I've come to conclude that bullies are 
successful because they rely on the courtesy and "niceness" of others.

I know you cannot intercede for me because the neighbor and I both live in your 
ward.  But can you tell me who in City government I can turn to?  He is the 
definition of a bully, yet I am at a loss about what to do.
Thanks for any direction you can provide.

Heather Emberson
Always be more than you appear, and
never appear to be more than you are.
                                   ~ Horst Kasner